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The Girl I’m Seeing Has a Vexing Rule In regards to the Intercourse We Have

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I’m a male in my mid-30s and not too long ago began relationship a girl across the identical age as me. We actually like one another and have had fairly common intercourse regardless of having totally different schedules, younger youngsters, and residing about 45 minutes aside. I’ve had fairly a couple of sexual companions up to now and have achieved a number of exploration and have discovered sure kinks that I like. I get the sense from her that this isn’t the case for her but in addition that she’s open to exploring. Nevertheless, we have been sexting one night time and I stated vaguely that I needed to do one thing to/together with her.

Initially, she stated OK however then put the stipulation that it needed to be one thing that I had by no means achieved with somebody earlier than. I advised her a bit of about my previous sexual endeavors and the way that stipulation would restrict what I may do and will probably lead our intercourse life to being vanilla. None of that clarification appeared to essentially trouble her. We’re each actually comfy with one another and like one another loads however I like to combine issues up within the bed room and don’t really feel like I significantly can proper now. How ought to I strategy her about it? Or am I simply being impatient and may watch for the connection to develop a bit of extra?

—Tied Fingers

Expensive Tied Fingers,

The stipulation that you simply point out—you can solely bask in kinks with this lady which might be new to you—could also be a pink flag. I can consider two probably interpretations. One is that she isn’t significantly kinky and that is her roundabout method of specializing in vanilla intercourse. The opposite is even much less cute. It reads to me like she’s probably asking you to chorus from actions that you recognize you’re already into as a strategy to someway appease her ego. Maybe she thinks it’s much less particular so that you can do one thing together with her than you’ve achieved with another person. To place it plainly: That’s bullshit. As you expertise intercourse, you accrue style—you’re going to be higher on the stuff that you simply get pleasure from and have ample follow doing. You need a accomplice to need you to get pleasure from your self and know what you’re doing, as an alternative of asking you to chorus from these issues on precept.

I might be misreading this (the imprecise method you convey your imprecise dialog is perplexing), and maybe there’s a extra charitable interpretation right here. If it’s not clear why she’d make this stipulation, it’s best to ask her. If she certainly has some technical difficulty with you replicating previous conduct with others, both resign your self to vanilla intercourse or discover one other accomplice with whom to be kinky.


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I’m a pansexual lady with a number of companions (one lady and some males) with a comparatively easy query. I’ve been poly for a few yr, and it was been WONDERFUL for my intercourse drive and delight, I’ve discovered loads about my physique, and I’m having extra intercourse than I ever have. The difficulty, with all of that intercourse, is how sore I’ve been getting.