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Slate publishes numerous recommendation every week, so we’re pulling collectively a collection of our favorites. Listed below are a couple of of probably the most compelling questions from the week and hyperlinks to hours of recommendation studying. This week: youngster care, Halloween costumes, and enormous inheritances.

Pricey Prudence

Not the Nanny: I’ve been married 10 years and collectively for 13. My stepdaughters “Gracie and Nikki” are 28 and 25 respectively. Gracie and I’ve an excellent relationship, whereas her sister can barely be civil in direction of me. As a young person, Nikki handled me as her personal private maid, chauffeur, and chef. She had zero respect and would stomp off screaming if requested to exhibit any. I took numerous “walks” when she had her mates drop in with out warning. There was one memorable incident the place she threw a plastic glass at my head when, after she got here in crying that she was hungry and wanted her laundry accomplished, I pointed on the kitchen and advised her to assist herself. She was 16 on the time. (And sure, each women have been in remedy on and off since earlier than I even met my husband.) Nikki by no means took something from it, apart from that I used to be a neater punching bag than both of her mother and father or her sister.

I’ve tried to take the excessive highway over the sneers, insults, and sheer rudeness, however I hit my restrict when Nikki received engaged. My mother and father each gave Gracie and Nikki over a thousand {dollars} for his or her weddings. Gracie was gracious and thanked my mother and father in a toast. Nikki cashed the test and didn’t hassle to ask them in any respect. I paid my mother and father again and let Nikki have it. She insisted she did nothing incorrect, it was a present, and it was her big day—so there. I known as her a monstrous brat and to by no means count on something from me once more. My husband didn’t need to go to the marriage with out me however I made him go alone. I keep away from being round Nikki as a lot as attainable and it’s pretty simple as all of us dwell domestically.

I’m very near Gracie and her two kids. Gracie is a freelancer and her childcare wants are chaotic, whereas my work could be very versatile. I typically watch her kids. Nikki has introduced her being pregnant and so “graciously” supplied to bury the hatchet with me—if I grow to be her unpaid private nanny. I might be required to drive 45 minutes to her home day by day to maintain her child. Nikki doesn’t need the infant wherever however at her home. So hell will freeze over earlier than I do this. My husband thinks that is an olive department; I believe it’s simply Nikki deciding she needs one thing and that she deserves it it doesn’t matter what. So what ought to I do right here?

Care and Feeding

Halloween Bully: My 9-year-old daughter is having a difficulty together with her greatest good friend’s household. Per week in the past, my daughter had a film social gathering at her good friend’s home. Her good friend’s teenage stepbrother made a bunch of “jokes” about what my daughter needs to be for Halloween: “It is best to go as a vampire since you’re already pale AF,” “you need to go as an alien as a result of you have already got 4 eyes,” “you need to go as your self since you’re already so ugly,” and on and on. This clearly made my daughter upset. Her good friend’s mother not solely refused to cease her stepson, however based on my daughter, additionally acted like she agreed with him. They dwell a 20-minute drive away from us, and my daughter doesn’t have a cellphone and didn’t really feel snug asking her good friend’s mother to contact me so she needed to wait till the agreed upon time for me to choose her up. Now she doesn’t need to play at her good friend’s home.

Yesterday I received a textual content from her good friend’s mother saying that if my daughter gained’t play at her good friend’s home, then her good friend can’t play at our home. After some clarification, she didn’t change her thoughts. My daughter is devastated and needs me to inform the opposite mother that it’s okay, she will go to her good friend’s home. One thing feels actually off right here. The opposite mother has all the time felt a bit off, however by no means like this. My daughter could be very shy and doesn’t have every other shut mates. This good friend is in her class at college. I’m undecided what to do now.

The right way to Do It

Voyeurism Fail: I (32F) have some voyeuristic kinks. To that finish, my boyfriend and I’ve an open relationship, with the understanding that he’ll inform me about his encounters afterwards. He’s excellent at describing and I very a lot get pleasure from masturbating to them, along with intercourse with him immediately shortly afterward. However we have been each open to a extra direct watching expertise, and after a while of him seeing “Clara,” the three of us talked it over and agreed to a bit scene the place my boyfriend and Clara would have intercourse at our home, and I might “stroll in” on them in the midst of it and keep to observe. Everybody appeared positive with it after we initially talked it over. Everybody appeared positive the day earlier than.

I “discover” them within the bed room and it was like a moist blanket was thrown over issues. Instantly everybody’s awkward and after some time Clara asks to cease, which ends the encounter. I do know she’s spoken to my boyfriend since, however I believe it wound up killing what the 2 of them had, which is unhappy. I’ve gone over it in my head repeatedly and I’m undecided what went incorrect, or certainly, if something truly went incorrect. I think that it was simply not as horny in individual because it sounded after we agreed on it beforehand. I might form of wish to strive once more someday, however I hoped I might get some ideas to ensure we don’t get a repeat of this embarrassment. What do I do?

Pay Filth

Has Cash Modified Him or Me?: I’m a 27-year-old girl. I used to be raised with the data that my mother and father and grandparents have been snug and that I loved a sure degree of privilege consequently. I attended non-public faculties, graduated college with out debt, and was given a large deposit on a starter condo which I share with a roommate. Nonetheless, I additionally labored from the idea that I must make my manner on the planet and had scholar jobs and so on. like the remainder of my friends and utilized to the identical job market as everybody else after I graduated. My grandfather not too long ago handed away and left me a small fortune. It’s sufficient that I might make investments it and by no means work once more. I like my job so I don’t need to do that.

My fiancé thinks that is what we should always do. He’s in a band and is a gifted musician however they haven’t taken off but. Even earlier than this, he solely labored 20 hours every week to focus on his music. He now needs to give up his job. He additionally balks at giving a portion away to charity, although it is a household custom I wish to proceed. I’ve additionally observed another modifications like him eager to eat at extra high-end eating places and taking an perspective to servers that he didn’t earlier than. Provided that we each did this type of work after we have been college students, I discover his lack of empathy terrible. We’re engaged and I like him however I’ve issues that his values have modified since we got here into this amount of cash. I’m considering of calling off the marriage however I like him. Assist!

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