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My Brother Has Developed an Absurd Rule About “Magic” at His Home. Oh God.

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My brother, “Steve,” is a really sensible man. He’s father however he’s not very sentimental and I’d by no means count on him to do issues like Elf on the Shelf hijinks or sprinkling fairy mud when the tooth fairy comes. Nevertheless, I wasn’t ready for simply how sensible he’s and the way it will have an effect on my very own parenting. He has the oldest baby in our household, 9-year-old “Levi.” My oldest is 6. We noticed Levi just a few months in the past after he’d simply misplaced a tooth.

I requested him if the tooth fairy got here and he advised me that his dad says no fairies or another magical creatures are allowed in the home—that his dad simply purchased his tooth from him. I believed this was unhappy. I requested Levi how he felt about it and he shrugged and stated he thought it was bizarre for somebody to return in the midst of the night time and take his enamel and depart him cash, and that he most well-liked to promote his enamel to his dad.

After I requested Steve about this, he stated the ban on magical creatures was one thing he’d thought was humorous, foolish in a great way, and apparently it doesn’t cease with the tooth fairy. Any presents from Santa or baskets from the Easter Bunny are left on the entrance porch, and Levi and his youthful siblings make a giant deal out of placing issues in entrance of the door or on the backside of the fireside so the gift-giving creatures can’t get in. This appeared unusual to me, however I believed, high-quality, it’s not my household, so I’d keep out of it. (I did ask my sister-in-law about it as soon as, however she was born and raised exterior the U.S. and thinks the tooth fairy, Santa, the Easter bunny, and all which are unusual customs anyway—she had no foundation for comparability.)

Right here’s the issue. My oldest misplaced a tooth (his second) whereas he was staying with my brother and needed to promote it to him as a substitute of ready till he obtained residence so the tooth fairy “was allowed” to return. Steve went forward and “purchased” it from him, after which once I picked my son up and noticed he’d misplaced his tooth, Steve “pretended” he would promote it to me if I needed it (later he simply gave it to me). I used to be fairly upset and advised my son we might put the tooth underneath his pillow that night time for the tooth fairy, however my child was bummed out as a result of he needed Uncle Steve to maintain it (“I offered it to him!”). Not like my brother, I actually just like the magic of tooth fairies and Santa. However my son isn’t shopping for into it anymore. He has a unfastened tooth now and doesn’t need the tooth fairy to return for it. He retains speaking about how Uncle Steve offers $4 for the actual tooth he’s shedding (it appears there’s a completely different value for various enamel: canines are $3, molars are $5, and so on.—and I assume props to my brother for encouraging my child to lookup what all of the enamel are referred to as). I advised that the tooth fairy would possibly give him greater than $4. I even resorted to, “In our home, we do that,” however he didn’t budge. And my husband advised me to let it go. That is vital to me, although! I’m beginning to fear that we’ll find yourself lacking out on stunning Christmas morning presents underneath the tree I like a lot. How do I inform my children we aren’t doing issues the best way they do them at Uncle Steve’s home with out them being upset with me? Am I selecting the flawed hill to die on?

—Magic Welcome Right here

Pricey Magic,

Leaving apart the mystifying a part of this (Uncle Steve is “sensible” and doesn’t like “magic,” however he has spun a counter-tale that has Santa and the Easter Bunny obliged to go away their presents on the porch?), I’ll let you know this: The “magic” of Christmas, the tooth fairy, and all the remainder of it’s speculated to be for the youngsters, not for the adults. In case your child isn’t within the tooth fairy, let it go. It’ll prevent the difficulty of getting to interrupt the information to him later that the tooth fairy was really you. As to these stunning Christmas mornings you get pleasure from a lot, since Steve’s story is just not that Santa isn’t actual, solely that he’s not allowed in over at Steve’s home, I see no hazard forward for you. You’ll be able to guarantee your baby that magical creatures are welcome at your home: that you’ve got a strict coverage of not turning anybody away. Perhaps his cousins will even be envious of that, and Steve can come complaining to you when his children need to have Christmas at your home, the place the magic occurs indoors. Good luck.

—Michelle

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