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What’s the cope with peeing after intercourse when you’ve a vagina? I’ve a vagina and have solely dated folks with vaginas, and it appears nobody can provide me a straight reply! Rising up, I bear in mind being suggested to pee after intercourse in intercourse ed, and pals I’ve requested appear to assume it’s a good suggestion as properly to forestall UTIs. However web searches flip up blended outcomes, and I don’t know what to assume anymore. On-line, I’ve seen all the pieces from articles saying it doesn’t make any distinction in any respect, to recommendation to pee in spite of everything intercourse acts together with masturbation. There’s little or no consensus, and it’s tough to discern what info has precise medical analysis behind it and what doesn’t.

I’ve had lovers who pee after intercourse religiously, ones who accomplish that solely typically, and ones who by no means do. My present companion doesn’t pee after intercourse until they’ve the urge to, whereas I just about all the time do (nevertheless it’s extra motivated by eager to sop up all of the wetness than by UTI prevention). Neither of us has ever gotten a UTI (knock on wooden). I solely know two individuals who have instructed me they’ve had UTIs: a detailed buddy who was fairly certain it was on account of her companion not washing his fingers, and my older sister who will get them considerably regularly, however solely from penis-in-vagina intercourse. (In truth, my older sister has instructed me I’m fortunate I’m a lesbian as a result of I don’t have the type of intercourse that results in them, however I can’t work out how getting penetrated with a strap-on could be any completely different from a penis on this circumstance).

All of this leaves me with the next questions: How vital is it actually to pee after intercourse? How large is the danger of UTIs for those who don’t? Are UTIs the one danger, or is there one thing else we ought to be anxious about too? How quickly after intercourse do you have to pee? What if intercourse lasts for a very long time, like a number of hours? In that case, do it’s important to take breaks to pee, and in that case, how typically? Does the quantity of pee matter? Is my sister proper that PIV intercourse is extra dangerous? Ought to I encourage companions to pee after now we have intercourse? I understand it is a lot of questions, however I’m each anxious and curious. Assist!

—To Pee or To not Pee

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There’s no single reply to every of those questions as a result of everybody’s physique is completely different. To make the scenario much more advanced, our our bodies and bodily care wants change as we age. And, even when your intercourse ed was only some years in the past, science features extra perception and nuance as time goes on—though sexual well being and the entire uterus-ovary-vulva scenario remains to be woefully understudied. However I reached out to Stacy De-Lin, MD, the Affiliate Medical Director of Deliberate Parenthood Hudson Peconic, for some perception into UTIs and your questions. Right here’s a few of what De-Lin wrote again:

In a single giant case-control examine, the frequency of sexual activity was the strongest danger issue for urinary tract infections for sufferers with vaginas. Nevertheless, different danger components recognized have been issues like use of spermicides throughout intercourse, having a brand new intercourse companion through the previous 12 months, having a primary UTI at or earlier than 15 years of age, or having a mom with a historical past of UTIs. This genetic hyperlink is definitely fairly vital! A number of different research recommend that ladies with recurrent UTIs have elevated susceptibility to vaginal colonization with UTI-causing micro organism in contrast with folks with vaginas and not using a historical past of recurrence, on account of a larger propensity for micro organism to stick to the urethral cells of such folks with vaginas. Translation: Some folks simply are born with sure cells of their urethra that make UTIs extra probably.

You, your present companion, and your folks who’ve by no means had a UTI most likely lucked out—you could not have these cells that make UTIs extra probably. And because you’re not getting them, Dr. De-Lin famous that in your case, there’s most likely no have to race to the bathroom after intercourse, however as you stated, you wish to dry off anyway. In the meantime, for girls like your sister, sure, urinating after intercourse might certainly assist. De-Lin talked about that in case your sister’s infections are frequent she might wish to converse to her physician about postcoital prophylaxis, which is a preventative care measure within the type of a single dose of antibiotic after intercourse.

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I’m a 30-something lady, and I’m feeling fairly pressured, and never in a great way. There’s a lot speak about oral intercourse being the top of any lady’s intercourse life, and I simply am not very impressed by it. I’ve a male companion of over a decade and he doesn’t appear to like performing it both as a result of I principally swap to a trusty vibe to complete. We do different stuff and that has suited us tremendous for this lengthy! Friction is simply meh for me and I a lot choose vibration. It’s all the time been this fashion however I really feel like there’s something improper with me and my relationship as a result of I simply can’t get a lot into him happening below. Is there something improper with ignoring the hype and simply going our personal manner?

—Underneath Strain

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Nope. There’s nothing improper with taking the points of sexuality that work with you and leaving the remainder behind. You and your companion are each comfortable with out oral intercourse. Take pleasure in your “different stuff.”

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My companion (I’m pan, they’re not) has instructed on a number of events that I choose some porn or erotica for us to get pleasure from collectively to encourage our intercourse life. On paper, I’m , and I’ve tried websites like CrashPad and different issues particularly aimed toward queer girls, in addition to the large compilation of erotica that’s on the web. I simply, choose real-life girls? If I fantasize, it’s about my companion or another real-life situation. I can’t actually get into it if I can’t emotionally join. However I don’t have the identical drawback with heterosexual content material, which I do get pleasure from solo. I do know this wouldn’t be scorching to them in any respect, and typically my sexuality makes them insecure. I’m embarrassed, and in addition at 30, too previous to really feel so bizarre about this. What do I do?

—I Need to However…

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Since your pansexuality causes your companion some insecurity, and I’m getting the sense that the insecurity is round pairings that contain one individual with a penis and one other with a vulva, I’d suggest steering away from bringing the heterosexual porn that you simply get pleasure from in your solo time into the intercourse you share along with your companion. I’m additionally questioning whether or not your companion’s insecurities have something to do with the truth that your intercourse life looks like one thing that must be “inspired.” And I’m nearly sure that your bizarre emotions and embarrassment must do along with your companion’s insecurity.

Pansexual and bisexual individuals are typically topic to doubts about their skill to interact in constancy. There are the same old questions like, ”Don’t you miss [other gender]?” and “How can I fulfill you after I solely have one set of elements?” in addition to the stereotypes that bi and pan individuals are inherently unhealthy at selecting. To recommend that people who find themselves solely into girls wish to have intercourse with all girls, and might’t commit to 1 lady with all these different choices on the market, could be seen as ridiculous, however these beliefs persist. So for those who’re getting any of that type of enter out of your companion, take into account whether or not the weirdness you’re feeling is a symptom of one thing deeper.

So far as your precise query, I’m questioning whether or not attending to know the performers within the queer porn you would possibly watch, in a parasocial type of manner, may make it easier to fantasize about them extra simply. Most people who work in porn, queer or not, have social media accounts, blogs, and interviews accessible which present a few of their persona. It is perhaps sufficient that can assist you really feel like you recognize them to a level that makes them fantasy materials.

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My girlfriend and I’ve been relationship for about two months. She is just not on contraception and doesn’t have an IUD. I went out and purchased a bunch of condoms, and I used a condom for our first time. Nevertheless, after this, she requested me to go with out and end on her somewhat than inside her. Regardless of this being a really unhealthy thought, I did it (and prevented having an oopsie inside her) three extra occasions.