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I’m Allergic to My Boyfriend’s Face. He Gained’t Do Something About It.

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I’ve been with my boyfriend for somewhat over a yr. Recently, we’ve run into an issue: I begin sneezing uncontrollably each time we kiss or have intercourse. We went to see a physician about it, and after a number of rounds of appointments and checks, it seems I’m mildly reacting to one thing in his facial hair. The issue started when he began rising out his beard.

He doesn’t need to take care of the effort of shaving day by day (which is what in the end led him to eager to develop out his beard), so I prompt waxing to take care of the surplus hair. However he doesn’t need to wax. A few of that is my fault— I’ve gotten a Brazilian for my pubic hair as soon as and informed him how painful and worsening it was, and he doesn’t need a comparable course of utilized wherever close to his face. His counter-solution was to do it doggystyle. However I don’t actually like that place—it feels prefer it has no intimacy once I can’t see my associate. So we hold circling round and it actually appears like we’re going to interrupt up over one thing as insignificant as him deciding to develop a beard.

—Caught in a Rut

Pricey Caught in a Rut,

You’re sneezing on account of your boyfriend’s beard and I’m chafed. I’m not liking the shortage of generosity coming from him right here. Certain, it’s his facial hair, thus his selection, however he has the chance to make your life simpler (and fewer sneezy) and but he can’t be bothered. His girlfriend is allergic to his face and his reply to that’s, “Properly, let’s simply do it so we aren’t going through one another.” That’s wild to me. It’s giving gained’t-give-up-the-window-seat selfishness. Are you simply by no means purported to kiss once more? Would that be OK with him? And if that’s the case, why would that be OK with him?

There are, in fact, options to the clear shaves that may be irritating (to not point out annoying)—a beard trimmer (sans attachments) can get a reasonably shut shave (leaving brief stubble) typically with out bothering the pores and skin or requiring an enormous manufacturing. It simply takes a couple of minutes to go over one’s face with such clippers. I’m undecided if somewhat little bit of stubble would nonetheless be irritating to you, nevertheless it looks like this might be an alternative choice to what’s been rejected to date. It could be value mentioning, if for no different purpose than to see if he turns that down as effectively. Lasers are additionally an possibility value floating, although it’s tougher to fault him for not eager to go down that extra excessive path, which is dear and might result in everlasting hair loss.

I’m as cautious as you’re of pinning an excessive amount of that means onto this, but when he refuses to budge in any approach and clings to the doggy fashion answer, he’s displaying you a selfishness that will very effectively manifest in different methods down the road. It might appear foolish to interrupt up over one thing as “insignificant” as him deciding to develop a beard, till you see that such selections made with out regard for one’s associate’s consolation and wellness aren’t, in truth, insignificant in any respect. If nothing else, think about this a crimson flag and proceed with warning.


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