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I’m in my mid-20s and till just lately had by no means used a vibrator or any sort of intercourse toy. Not for any specific motive, I simply by no means felt the necessity to (I can simply come from handbook clitoral stimulation).
Throughout a threesome, I received to make use of a vibrator for the primary time and whereas it didn’t carry me to orgasm, it felt nice. I wished to discover extra alone so I purchased my very own vibrator and it’s been nice! I nonetheless don’t orgasm from it however I’m actually superb with that as a result of it feels very stress-free (I even have endometriosis and pelvic ground tightness and have seen much less ache after utilizing the vibrator). Typically I even use it after I’m simply mendacity round watching TV for the stress-free impact, not essentially in a sexual means. My query is that typically afterward my vulva/pelvic space feels form of numb. Is that this regular? I’ve seen my clitoral orgasms have been barely weaker too and general, I really feel a bit “desensitized” throughout penis-in-vagina intercourse. Am I performing some kind of injury with it?
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I reached out to Stacy De-Lin, MD, affiliate medical director at Deliberate Parenthood Hudson Peconic, New York, for some added experience into the numbness you describe. “First, I feel there’s a lot on the web about vibrator desensitization, however I’m undecided it’s essentially an actual phenomenon,” De-Lin stated. “There hasn’t been definitive scientific proof proving that vibrators trigger long-term desensitization. Most stories are anecdotal. Whereas some customers might report decreased sensitivity after utilizing a vibrator, that is usually momentary and resolves after a brief interval of non-use.” So both strive utilizing a distinct setting than standard or put the vibe away for some time.
Many ladies want clitoral stimulation to orgasm, so that you would possibly go the opposite path totally and produce that vibe into penis-in-vagina intercourse. In the meantime, it’s by no means a nasty concept to test in with a gynecologist for an examination. Discovering a medical supplier you’ll be able to belief, and constructing a relationship with them, is without doubt one of the finest issues you are able to do to your sexual well being.
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I’m a 28-year-old lady who’s been married to my husband for 5 years now. He’s the one sexual associate I’ve ever had (for penetrative intercourse at the least), and I typically get pleasure from what we do so much. I simply have one challenge—a difficulty I’ve all the time had, now that I give it some thought. I hear about ladies having a number of orgasms.