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Most males are inclined to have numerous angst about their tools—typically of the “amount” and “high quality” of stated gear… I’ve some associated “amount” and “high quality” questions. Each concerning the tools per se, however concerning the “output”: the quantity (and style) of cum produced.

My first query is: What’s the basic consensus amongst ladies, as to their preferences on amount produced? Do they like or take pleasure in seeing their male associate produce noticeably bigger quantities of ejaculate (no matter the place it’s deposited)? Or do they not are inclined to have a visceral response to that? (One vital different has stated that she prefers there to be much less of it though I discover when there IS a LOT of it, she tends to admire her “work.”)

My second associated query is: What strategies or methods can or will assist the male to supply extra output on the climax? Porn stars like Peter North have been well-known for his or her singular capability to supply huge output. Was he simply genetically gifted ultimately, or did he use some routine (dietary, exercise, and so forth.) to realize his astounding outcomes? Or is that type of output simply the results of unbelievable willpower and/or physique management throughout intercourse, that allowed him to chorus from climaxing for terribly lengthy intervals? Or does holding out for longer throughout intercourse—or going longer between having intercourse—even issue into the quantity of output a male produces? Or is all that cum in grownup movies only a mirage produced with synthetic substances?

My third associated query is: What (if any) measures can are inclined to make the style of 1’s cum extra palatable (and even nice) to 1’s associate? I’ve repeatedly heard that ingesting extra candy fruit juices (particularly pineapple) could make one’s ejaculate style higher (possibly even candy). Is that this true? And, if that’s the case, what routine is important to have an effect on this variation in a single’s output? What substances have the perfect impact? How a lot, how typically? Are there any substances to be averted to stop disagreeable aftertastes?

—Spouting Off

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You requested so many questions and the reply to most of them is: Relies upon. Typically, there’s not numerous usable information on what ladies need, since that inhabitants (roughly half of the world’s) is so massive and diversified. If the overall consensus amongst ladies is {that a} tablespoon of semen is a fascinating quantity, however your associate desires 1 / 4 cup, what good would that information be anyway? No consensus about just about something past the very fundamentals of connection (respecting consent, basic consideration) is value greater than the needs of your rapid associate. That stated, there’s some (self-reported) information relating to ejaculation throughout intercourse to ladies and it’s, unsurprisingly, typically necessary, based on this examine. Notice that the questionnaire on which this examine was based mostly didn’t inquire about semen quantity however its very existence.

Another excuse why the data that you just search is maybe much less helpful than you’d hope is that there’s not a lot you are able to do to vary the dimensions of your hundreds. Constantly massive ejaculations are the results of a situation known as hyperspermia, which is one thing that you just both have or don’t. It’s uncommon and its causes are unknown (some researchers have hypothesized that it could possibly be the results of prostate irritation). There are anecdotal accounts of dietary supplements and herbs serving to enhance sperm quantity. As sound because the reporting could also be (and that’s extremely doubtful), there hasn’t been a single sperm-boosting complement recognized. In spite of everything, each physique is totally different. Edging could provide help to work up a giant load, as could prolonged abstinence. Personally, I discover if I’m attractive for an prolonged interval even with out edging, after I lastly come, it tends to be bigger.

By the way, your reference to Peter North says quite a bit right here—what you see in porn, notably that of North’s ‘80s-‘90s heyday, has been engineered for males’s preferences. Definitely, there are ladies who take pleasure in huge geysers of cum, but additionally sure is that straight males do as effectively. (As for whether or not it’s all a mirage continues to be up for debate and sure varies—although some productions do reportedly dabble in synthetic semen.)

Altering semen style can also be going to be subjective. That is an experiment so that you can attempt your self (hope you want consuming your individual cum!). Usually, citrus fruit juice has a repute for sweetening issues up, notably pineapple, as you reference. Issues like medicine, smoking, and alcohol are understood to have an effect on semen’s style negatively (I can all the time inform when the sperm that simply hit my tongue belongs to somebody who was ingesting the night time earlier than). How a lot how typically? Who can say? You in all probability don’t must, like, pound pineapple juice day and night time. Possibly have some repeatedly a couple of days earlier than you propose on having intercourse, or incorporate it sporadically whereas in an lively interval. Different issues which will make your sperm style extra like ass are cruciferous greens (like broccoli) in addition to asparagus. However I’m not going to let you know to keep away from greens as a result of they’re good for you and anybody who’s planning on tasting sperm must be conscious going into it that it’s not precisely going to be Michelin star-worthy, even at its greatest.

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I’m a 29-year-old lady in a just-over-one-year relationship with a 32-year-old man. We stay collectively (11 months formally) and talk effectively. Total all the things’s been nice, aside from the intercourse. We haven’t engaged within the act for simply over six months at this level, regardless of beforehand participating virtually every day. The was a pointy drop-off after which issues flat-lined. We’ve talked about it and neither of us is pleased with the shortage of intercourse, however we’ve got totally different approaches to it. He had been in remedy for a while for efficiency anxiety-related ED earlier than we met (though needed to cease and isn’t on the lookout for a brand new therapist). He has continual ache, not newly recognized, however flaring greater than it was beforehand, and a few seasonal despair. So far as he’s involved, he is aware of “why” his libido dropped and sees the difficulty as one thing to attend out.

My strategy was initially to let him do this. Managing continual ache is troublesome; I’ve a continual sickness myself, however for longer, and have had extra probabilities to regulate at this level. And giving him a while to let the seasons change appeared OK. However at this level, each points are doing higher and the intercourse difficulty isn’t bettering. I’m feeling much less OK with persevering with to do nothing. I’ve requested him to speak to his physician because the sickness he has is linked to ED and he hasn’t. I’ve tried participating him in foreplay, however he’s not keen on something extra vital than a lightweight kiss and cuddling. If I attempt to kiss extra deeply or sit on his lap, he stops it. I do know he solely sees PIV as “precise” intercourse, so I feel he will get caught up within the efficiency anxiousness of foreplay equals he has to get arduous instantly. I’ve introduced up that PIV doesn’t must be the purpose of intimacy or the one sort of intercourse on the market. He used to like oral however that’s additionally a no. I’ve tried to speak him out of that mindset, however no cube and he hasn’t made efforts to discover a new therapist to handle the efficiency anxiousness. He additionally insists on a TV within the bed room, which I really feel cuts into our high quality time collectively and the potential for intimacy, particularly as he likes to sit down on his cellphone on the identical time. He’s not prepared to take away it and even go away it off with out complaining. I really feel prefer it’s been on much more than it was once. I admit that the TV bothers me quite a bit at this level. I’m additionally debating pushing for a intercourse therapist for us as a pair.

I really feel at an deadlock proper now as a result of I don’t wish to push too arduous and make him extra anxious about participating intimately as that won’t assist with the efficiency anxiousness state of affairs. I do wish to emphasize he’s a really supportive and engaged associate in each different approach and we each wish to keep collectively long-term, however I’m beginning to really feel extra disconnected from him with the shortage of intimacy. He’s stated it’s necessary to him too. I simply want I noticed extra effort on his half to vary issues. Is it value pushing for any of the issues I discussed, or some other recommendation on the best way to get us out of the hunch? Or do I would like to present him extra time?

—Intimate With Anxiousness

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Your frustration is comprehensible—I feel it’s good to be sure the phrases of the deal you’ve struck (successfully talking) really haven’t been met, although. Your associate has requested you for time and although you suppose the ache has dulled and it’s gotten sufficiently hotter outdoors, does he? To be clear, I don’t suppose you must put up with him placing this off indefinitely nor ought to he be shifting the goalpost willy-nilly, however he requested for time. If not sufficient time has handed for him, you must test again in and ask for an ETA. Let him set the phrases, however be sure these phrases are honored on each side.

And talking of, has he agreed to see a health care provider/therapist and is now dragging his ft, or are these recommendations of yours that he has ignored? These are two very totally different eventualities. If it’s the previous, he’s dedicated to a plan of action he has not taken; if it’s the latter, you’ll be able to be part of the remainder of the HTDI writers who’re exasperated that their associate received’t get handled for one thing treatable however don’t have any actual leverage to drive the difficulty. By the way, visiting a intercourse therapist as a pair could also be your greatest guess for getting him in entrance of somebody who can deal with this difficulty immediately.

The TV within the bed room could also be accountable for additional disconnection, however I feel it’s simply as doubtless that it’s a symptom of his larger sexual apathy and that in case your intercourse life have been to revitalize, it wouldn’t make a distinction both approach.

Take into account methods to develop the dialog. Him being doctor-shy is disconcerting—maybe you’ll perceive his habits higher should you ask him why he isn’t going to a health care provider about these items. Possibly his excuse will strike you as bullshit and lazy, or possibly there are honest emotions connected to his inaction that may no less than foster some empathy in you. You possibly can up the stakes by telling him in language as plain as you advised us the way you’re coping with the state of affairs. “I’m beginning to really feel extra disconnected from you due to our lack of intimacy,” is a approach of letting him know the implications of the trail he’s chosen. Such data might show galvanizing.

One thing else you are able to do is give him a tough deadline—in X many days/weeks/months you wish to see him take some type of motion towards repairing your intercourse life. Inform him that you just’re pushing arduous for this since you consider in him and your shared sexual connection. Supply your assist and potential assist and revisit the dialog periodically (however not too continuously—I’d say a weekly check-in appears affordable, relying on his consolation ranges).

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I’m separating from my husband who I used to be with for eight sad years with very minimal sexual contact (he sought that out with different ladies). My drawback is I don’t keep in mind the best way to kiss. It’s been 4 years. Earlier than courting him, I had an lively and principally satisfying intercourse life with totally different monogamous companions, however that was a unique stage in life.

I’m now a 36-year-old mother of two younger children: I don’t even understand how or the place I might search out follow in making out. I’ve no real interest in casually courting totally different folks to be taught. I’ve no pals shut sufficient that I might ask to follow. I’ve googled “methods” but it surely appears geared at youngsters. I feel I can determine precise intercourse when it comes all the way down to it, however the kissing has me so embarrassed that I’m afraid to even go on a date. I’m deeply lonely and wish to have that intimacy with one other particular person once more. What can I do to have that want met?

—Practising With My Hand Isn’t Working

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Some folks appear to consider, in goal phrases, in good and unhealthy kissing (and intercourse, for that matter), however I feel they’re mistaken. That is an virtually completely subjective realm. Certain, violations of consent and inconsideration for one’s associate (and their pleasure) are unwelcome just about throughout the board and could possibly be thought-about as objectively “unhealthy” because it will get in intercourse, however mainly, all the things else exists in a grey space which will or is probably not welcome, based mostly on a associate’s style. I write this within the hope that it frees you and permits you to take into consideration kissing otherwise. There’s no customary to aspire to. There’s no incorrect approach. Some folks need all tongue, some folks need none, and a few folks wish to provide you with all of their tongue. It’s about how you’re employed and match with the person who you’re with.

That being the case, use kissing as an outlet of self-expression. How do you’re feeling inclined to kiss? You could be very lippy or not. You would possibly transfer your head passionately or stay comparatively static. It’s possible you’ll be handsy through the makeout sesh or chorus from probing. I feel assembly your associate midway and making an attempt to emote through their lens (say they don’t prefer to open their mouth too extensive, or clearly are usually not tongue-oriented, or want slower and passionate to a extra frenzied vibe) can facilitate ardour. Generally companions will even provide you with verbal suggestions, which you’ll be able to incorporate or reject (the latter whereas, often, deducing that this isn’t meant to be). I feel the place folks fail right here is after they don’t specific themselves via kissing, in order to present the feel and appear of a useless fish. In any other case, do you. If which means you don’t prefer to kiss very a lot, effectively, that’s OK too. Don’t be afraid to look at movies that you just contemplate remedial for assist, since as you admit, you’re considerably behind right here. I feel expertise, your individual fireplace, and confidence are going to be essentially the most helpful parts. Needless to say you’ll be able to all the time take a break and ask the particular person you’re kissing in the event that they’re having fun with it or if there’s something you are able to do otherwise.


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