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I Assume I’ve Made a Deal With My Toddler I Can’t Refuse

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Expensive Care and Feeding,

Low-stakes query right here. Not sometimes, our toddler will ask for a dessert merchandise (cookie, popsicle) for breakfast, and our response is to inform her that in our home, these are after-dinner meals, so she will be able to have one which night. Generally she’ll keep in mind and ask for the dessert after dinner. My husband and I divide on what to do when she doesn’t ask.

My place is that we should always say, “This morning we mentioned you would have a cookie after dinner.
Would you like it now?” to point out her that she will be able to belief us after we say one thing will occur “later.” My husband’s argument is that we should always say nothing as a result of, why on earth would you provide a toddler sugar if she’s not explicitly asking for it. Your opinion?

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Expensive Dessert Dilemma,

I’m in your husband’s facet right here. If she’s not asking for it, why would you even discuss it? Some days she might not be within the temper for a deal with, however most youngsters wouldn’t say no in the event you current them with the choice of getting one. I’m well past the toddler section of parenting, however I do know that I’m not alone within the thought that if I provided sweets to my children earlier than dinner, they might nonetheless be in my face after dinner as properly. It simply looks like an pointless headache for everybody concerned.

If you wish to present her that you simply’re reliable, simply do what you mentioned you had been going to do when the time truly comes. In case your plan is to provide her a popsicle after dinner, do it after dinner—however accomplish that solely if she asks for one. Issues solely come up whenever you return in your phrase. We’re all doing the very best we are able to out right here, so I’m not shaming you. My essential recommendation is to not outsmart your self and preserve your psychological power for the larger points.


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